Life Insurance and a Will Before the Baby Arrives

Not exactly cheerful dinner conversation. But here’s the one question that makes it simple: if my income disappeared tomorrow, how would my family manage?

If the answer is “not well”, you need life insurance. And if you’d care who raises your kid if neither of you could, you need a will. Sorting out life insurance and a will before the baby arrives is a lot easier than it sounds. One weekend, tops.

Do I need life insurance when I have a baby?

If anyone depends on your income, yes. A baby is the moment that changes from “nice to have” to “my family would be in trouble without it”. That goes for her too: if she stays home, replacing her work, like childcare, costs real money.

If you already have a policy, update it. Add the baby as a beneficiary, or better, set up a trust for them. More on that below.

Check what you already have through work first. Many employers include some life insurance, but it’s usually a modest amount, and it ends when you leave the job. Treat it as a bonus, not the plan.

Term vs whole life insurance for new parents

For most young families, term life is the simple choice. The NAIC, the national association of state insurance regulators, explains the difference like this:

• Term life covers you for a set period, like 20 or 30 years, until the kids are grown. If you die in that period, your family gets paid. If you don’t, the policy ends. It’s much cheaper, because it’s just insurance.
• Whole life covers you for life and builds a savings value. It costs much more for the same payout, because it’s insurance plus an investment.

Many families pick a term that runs until the youngest is through college, and invest separately. Whole life can make sense in specific situations. If someone pushes it hard on you, ask them to explain, in writing, why it beats term for your family.

How much life insurance does a new parent need?

Enough to keep your family afloat without you. The NAIC says some experts suggest five to eight times your income, but a better way is to add up what your family would actually need:

• Income: several years of your take-home pay.
• The mortgage or rent, and any other debts.
• Childcare and school, including college if that’s the plan.
• Final expenses.

Then subtract what you already have: savings and any coverage through work. Our baby budget calculator helps you see what your family needs each month.

How to make a will and name a guardian for your baby

A will does two big jobs for a new parent:

1. It names the guardian: who raises your child if you both die. Without a will, your state’s laws and a court decide, with the court involved in who cares for your kid.
2. It decides who gets what, and how your child gets money, since a minor can’t manage it themselves.

How to choose a guardian: talk it through together. Think about values, age, health, where they live and whether they actually want the job. Then ask them. Don’t let it be a surprise in a lawyer’s office. Name a backup, too.

One trap: don’t name your baby directly as the beneficiary of a life insurance policy. Money left straight to a minor can require a court-appointed guardian to manage it. A trust, or the way your will sets things up, avoids that. Ask about it when you make your will.

Simple situation? Many states let you make a valid will online for a small fee. Owning a business, a blended family or a lot of assets? See an estate attorney.

How to get life insurance and a will done in a weekend

Saturday morning: the numbers. Add up what your family would need, check your coverage at work, and decide on a term length.

Saturday afternoon: the quotes. Get quotes for term life from a few insurers or an independent broker. Expect a health questionnaire and sometimes a quick medical exam. Pick one and apply.

Sunday: the will. Agree on a guardian and a backup, then make the will, online or by booking an attorney. Sign it the way your state requires, often with witnesses.

Then, update everything: beneficiaries on your life insurance, 401(k) and bank accounts. Tell the guardian, and tell one trusted person where your documents are.

Not a fun weekend. But it’s done once, and you’ll sleep better. Well, in theory. You have a newborn.

And while you’re updating things at work, our free HR question list has a page on the baby clock: insurance, beneficiaries and the deadlines that come with a birth.

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General information, not financial or legal advice. We’re not licensed financial advisors or attorneys. Rules vary by state and by situation, so talk to a licensed professional before you decide.

Sources: NAIC: Life Insurance Buyer’s Guide, NAIC: Life Insurance, American Bar Association: Introduction to Wills, ABA: Life insurance, what attorneys and trustees should know.